To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”
The above quote is from the play, An Ideal Husband, by Oscar Wilde, but the sentiment is spot on.
If you don’t love and support yourself, you are in trouble. Either you are beating yourself up and making your own life a living hell, or you are looking for someone who will fill the hole you feel inside.
Maybe that looks like pouring all your love, affection, and attention on someone else in hopes that they will reciprocate by appreciating you and making you feel better. The thing is, love shouldn’t be transactional.
So if you are thinking that you can “make” someone love you if you are just “good” enough, that isn’t going to work. Until you love yourself first—until you value yourself and your intentions and aspirations—you are never going to be able to accept love offered by someone else. No matter what they do, it will never feel like enough, and you will be left feeling disappointed.
This is why I created the Be Your Own Valentine event that I’m running next week. Yes, I will be sending you a love letter each day for 5 days. But each of those letters will also include a meaningful exercise for you to do to accept, forgive, support, and love yourself. One of those exercises includes mirror work, which isn’t far off from the image in this post.
Each day for five days, wake up to a love letter in your inbox. Do the exercise for yourself. Say the affirmation in each letter out loud throughout the day. And watch as you start to alter the way you talk to yourself—because when you love and accept your own self, you won’t tolerate the negative self-talk that you are used to.
Opt in to this free five-day event, and let’s set you on a path toward a lifelong romance.
